“Come and See”: How to Invite a Friend to a Church Event Without Feeling Awkward

There’s something refreshing about the simplicity of an invitation—especially when it leads to something meaningful. Whether it’s a Bible study, potluck, or special service, West Palm Beach church events offer opportunities to connect, reflect, and be encouraged. But if we’re honest, extending that first invite can feel... a little uncomfortable.

Maybe we’re worried it’ll come across the wrong way, or that we’ll get a polite “maybe” and nothing more. Still, inviting someone to something good—especially when it’s centered on hope, faith, and community—has lasting value. So how do we do it without feeling awkward or overthinking it?

Shifting the Way We Think About Invitations

Inviting someone to a church event isn’t about convincing or converting on the spot. It’s about relationship. The invitation itself is a small act of faith, showing we care.

Tip #1: Keep It Personal, Not Pressured

The best invitations come from a place of friendship, not obligation. Instead of sending a flyer or sharing a generic post, consider sending a quick message or having a casual conversation.  

Mention what you’re looking forward to at the event, whether it’s music, food, or a guest speaker. That personal note makes the difference.

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Example:

“Hey, we’re having a Thanksgiving potluck at church this weekend. I’d love for you to come. It’s super laid-back, and there’ll be plenty of food.”

No need to over-explain or prep a theological pitch. Just extend the invite and let the rest unfold naturally.

Tip #2: Focus on Connection, Not Attendance

People are more likely to say yes if they know someone’s looking forward to being with them. Emphasize the opportunity to hang out together more than the event itself.

Try:

“If you’re free, want to come with me to the service on Sunday? I usually sit toward the middle—happy to save you a seat.”

Let the person know there’s a place for them, without any expectation or pressure.

Tip #3. Address Their Hesitations Gently

Sometimes people hesitate because they don’t know what to expect. They might wonder about what to wear, how long it’ll last, or whether they’ll stand out.

Give them a sense of what the experience is like. You could say:

“It’s about an hour, casual dress, and people are friendly. There’s even a children’s message during the service—honestly, it’s one of the best parts.”

By lowering the unknowns, we raise comfort.

Tip #4: Embrace the Awkward (It Might Be Worth It)

It’s okay to feel a little awkward. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Often, the most meaningful conversations happen when we’re willing to move through a bit of discomfort for the sake of connection.

Even if someone doesn’t say yes the first time, they may remember that you asked. That memory might be what opens the door later.

Tip #5: Celebrate the Small Wins

Not every invitation leads to a full pew on Sunday. But maybe it opens a deeper conversation, renews a friendship, or creates a new tradition. Each invitation is a step—sometimes for them, sometimes for us.

We plant seeds. God does the growing.

How We Support West Palm Beach Church Events at First Evangelical Lutheran Church

At First Evangelical Lutheran Church, events are not just gatherings—they’re opportunities to serve, celebrate, and grow in Christ. From seasonal festivities and FLAME programming to guest speakers and holiday services, everyone in the community is welcome.

Are you considering inviting someone, we're here to help! Do you have questions about an event or need assistance with invitations? Reach out to us anytime. We’d love to support you in cultivating connections as we build a community where faith is shared freely, and invitations are offered with grace.

If you or someone you know is in need of prayer or would like someone to pray with you, we also welcome you to share a request at any time.